IndieView with Bob Marsocci, author of You Exhaust Me – A Clueless Guy’s Guide to Marriage

Any advice that you would like to give to other newbies considering becoming Indie authors? With more than 20 years’ experience (and counting) as a husband, Bob Marsocci provides valuable insight on what guys should really expect after the wedding rings go on. Also, enjoy the process. Do you have a marketing plan for the book or are you just winging it? My book is non-fiction. However, I ended up self-publishing. End of Interview:
For more from Bob visit his website, follow him on Twitter, or like his Facebook page. For this book, I did not do an outline beyond chapter headings and a couple of sentences. Was it a particular event or a gradual process? Do you have a target reader? As a result, there were a few parts/chapters where I wanted to go into greater detail, but my wife asked me to not share certain details. I do edit it as I go but realize the finished product must be professionally edited. While I was giving this advice, one person in the group said I should write a marriage guide book for guys.   All the characters are real. Are there any particular authors that have influenced how you write and, if so, how have they influenced you? Candid and humorous, You Exhaust Me, A Clueless Guy’s Guide to Marriage, speaks directly to clueless men everywhere. Get your copy of   Exhaust Me: A Cluelss Guy’s Guide to Marriage from Amazon US or Amazon UK. All in all, it took me about three years to write it. My book, titled You Exhaust Me, A Clueless Guy’s Guide to Marriage, is about my marriage – it’s about the myriad lessons I learned (often times the hard way) as a clueless guy early on in my marriage. I grew up in New England, just outside of Boston and then in Rhode Island. Were there any parts of the book where you struggled? While I am wholly unqualified to give professional marital advice, I honestly believe my book can help guys once they enter a whole new world after saying “I do.”
What are you working on now? When did you start writing the book? The best-selling author Malcolm Gladwell said you have to have “10,000 hours experience in a subject to be an expert.” So by that measure, I’m a mega expert in marriage. What made you decide to go Indie, whether self-publishing or with an indie publisher? Do you listen to music while you write? I read Beautiful Ruins in 2016 and marveled at his creative story-telling ability. If so can you please describe it? After more than 20 years (and counting) as a husband–that’s more than 192,000 hours as a married guy–I figured I had enough experience to write a marriage guide book to help other guys who are or will soon be married. My book cover was professionally designed by Gary Rosenberg of “The Book Couple” in Boca Raton, Fla. I let my manuscript sit on the hard drive of my computer for a while without touching it. Take it from a formerly clueless guy: If you want to avoid hearing “You exhaust me!” from your wife, read this book. After doing extensive research and reading many blogs dedicated to self-publishing, I took the plunge and it’s been a great experience. Without question – I enjoy listening to music while I write. I’ve helped launch several consumer products during my marketing career and a marketing strategy/roadmap is a must, regardless of the product. My background is marketing and I developed an extensive marketing plan before finishing my book. If yes, what gets the fingers tapping? Where do you live now? Do you edit as you go or wait until you’ve finished? Does a guy know why he should never throw away his wife’s “bag of bags”? Where did you get the idea from? I am marketing/promoting You Exhaust Me and am also developing the framework for my second book. I realized that there are many tools available to a writer to self-publish. There may be times you get frustrated (I did and it’s natural to do so) but don’t give up! I started writing the book several years ago. What would you like readers to know about you? We all know how important it is for writers to read. I learned so much from friends and acquaintances who self-published before I did. I listen to several different musical genres but most often listen to Reggae music while writing. Of course, I had to respect her wishes. I live in Southern California with my wife, three daughters and two dogs. About You
Where did you grow up? I’ve been married for more than 20 years and find there are times when I’m still clueless about the nuances of my wife and idiosyncrasies of marriage. Many years ago I submitted my work to an agent. Jess Walter is an amazing writer. While I am wholly unqualified to give professional marital advice, I honestly believe my book can help guys once they enter a whole new world after saying “I do.”
Bob Marsocci – 1 July 2017
The Back Flap
Why a marriage guide for clueless guys? How long did it take you to write it? I am, however, developing an outline for my next book (which will be a novel). Do you outline? Whether you are engaged, a newlywed or have been married for several years, Bob’s personal and often hilarious marital anecdotes and lessons (often learned the hard way) will enlighten any guy. Millions of men are clueless about what to expect from marriage and need practical advice from a guy who has been there and seen it all. Share this:Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to email this to a friend (Opens in new window) Do you really have to ask? If so, do you do so extensively or just chapter headings and a couple of sentences? No, no, and most definitely no! About Writing
Do you have a writing process? At a family gathering several years ago I was giving some tried-and-true marriage advice to my brother-in-law who is 12 years my junior. Did you hire a professional editor? It’s got the secret sauce to keeping her (and you) happy. More than 2 million guys get married every year in the United States alone, and many (perhaps most) have no clue about the world they will enter once they say, “I do.”
Does a newlywed guy know the 10 Fatal Words his wife will spring on him days before her birthday? That was the genesis of the idea for my book. Everything I wrote about actually happened to me so it was easy writing about something where I had firsthand experience. I’m not sure if I have a process per se, but I feel most creative at night, so that’s when I do the lion’s share of writing. Does he know why he should avoid watching romance movies with his wife once he’s been married for a couple of years? My wife is a fairly private person. About Publishing
Did you submit your work to Agents? Yes, I did hire a professional editor. About the book
What is the book about? Are your characters entirely fictitious or have you borrowed from real world people you know? My primary target reader are guys who are engaged, newlywed or perhaps have been married a few years. He did a great job. What came easily? Do your research and talk with others who have self-published and are Indie authors. Did you get your book cover professionally done or did you do it yourself?